Posted at 2:36 pm , on February 7, 2018
What is your biggest fear in marriage?
Can I take a wild guess? Divorce?
It is a very relevant fear when the statistics say half [yes, 50%] of all marriages in the United States end in divorce.
This begs the question, what are we doing wrong?
Pause. Take a moment to look at this article by Dr. John Gottman, who is extremely accurate at predicting divorce.
Are you willing to admit that you use a harsh startup, criticism or stonewalling, negative body language, and/or do not regularly apologize?
They say the first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem.
Let’s all admit where we are weak and commit to becoming strong!
Posted at 5:00 pm , on January 29, 2018
It was my momma’s 40th birthday.
My dad organized a fishing charter around Flathead Lake in northwest Montana.
It was a lovely day of catching and releasing, family memories being made, sunburns, and then after we finished lunch we cruised to shore for the grand finale!
Once we hit land, my momma was surprised with friends singing “Happy Birthday.”
The cake looked beautiful.
Chocolate frosting, simple but intricate decorations, and a single “40” candle waiting to be blown out.
After much applause my momma grabbed the knife and started to cut her cake.
But something odd was happening…she couldn’t slice into it.
Giggles and robust laughter erupted.
“FOOLED YOU!” Yelled out one friend. “It’s a sponge!”
Not at all what any of us (except the friend that made it) were expecting.
Looking on the outside there was no way to tell the the inside was a massive sponge you would use to scrub your vehicle.
In the same way the cake was deceiving, I have found that marriage is not at all what I expected it to be. Continue reading
Posted at 6:21 pm , on January 9, 2018
The definition of shame (according to Merriam-Webster) is a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.
Have you ever done something shameful?
Have you ever felt ashamed?
Shame makes us do some pretty whacky stuff!
Concealing things you’re ashamed of can cause you to avoid authentic relationship.
What do I mean by that?
Maybe you’re sick of lying about this shameful thing, so you avoid being around others so they can’t ask a question that would prompt you to lie more.
Maybe you don’t want to get too close to anyone because they might inquire about something that prompts a memory of what you did.
Maybe you are nervous someone will make a judgmental comment about the people who have done the same shameful thing as you and you feel defensive.
Friend, it’s time to live in the freedom of truth!
Admit it, bring it to the light, not to bring shame but to bring change! Continue reading
Posted at 8:52 pm , on January 5, 2018
Hello fellow parents!
I will never claim to have all the answers or know what works best for you and your specific circumstance.
But what I hope to do is encourage you!
Encourage you to be a little goofier today than you were yesterday.
Encourage you to be a little more grace-giving each day.
Encourage you to be a little more mindful of the hearts + minds you’ve been given the gift of raising.
Five Things To Remember In Order To Improve Your Parenting
Posted at 9:00 am , on January 1, 2018
It’s what we do.
We’re a bunch of story-tellers.
And our own personal story is in constant progress.
I’m not sure where you’re at in the process of your life story, but I do know this…
You have a story surrounding your birth – your entrance into this world.
You have a story of your childhood – how, where, and by whom you were raised.
You have stories that are lighthearted.
You have stories that are funny – belly laughter funny, and slightly fetch a chuckle funny.
You have stories of deep hurt and sorrow.
The thing about all of these stories is that every single one of them has played a part in shaping who you are today.
Here you are, right now.
Many stories in your review and a vast windshield of possibilities lie ahead. Continue reading