Posted at 11:36 am , on August 13, 2018
These are the words that prompt every single post on WordPress.
“Share your story here…” doesn’t know what it’s asking of me.
“Share your story here…” could be a quick blip about friendship or it could mean me pouring out my deepest thoughts.
When my friend Sara asked, “would you like to share your story?” I couldn’t help but scream inside, “what I just shared with you is not my whole story!” Instead I said, “yes, I would love to share.”
Each of us has a story, and a story within a story, and stories within those stories. The sum of all of these makes up our whole life.
Posted at 3:17 pm , on July 23, 2018
“Well they sure became fast friends.” Our neighbor gesturing to his two kiddos and our two girls where only a chain link fence separates them.
Anytime we go to the park and a kid shows kindness to Penny (including her in tag, letting her go down the slide first, saying “hi my name is…”) she instantly tells me she made a new friend and hopes they’re there the next time we come to the park.
We have multiple books on the subject of friends/friendship.
A lot of little kid tv shows focus around being a good friend.
So when and why do the fast friendships of childhood end?
What is the turning point where we start putting a criteria on people that we’re going to allow into our inner circle?
Why do we form cliques and start excluding humans who are just as desperate for love and friendly affection as we are?
Posted at 6:15 pm , on June 18, 2018
In February of 2017 I decided to share some of my story that really (the use of ‘really’ is a massive understatement) hurt some family.
I apologized immediately – eager to move forward and seek healing together.
Unfortunately not all apologies are immediately accepted.
Or sometimes the apology is accepted but the work that goes into the healing is stunted.
It felt as though we were all traveling through life on a train and this new information caused one car (the one that held these family members) to derail, while the rest of the train continued moving on down the track.
For the following year there wasn’t much communication past the first apologies I made. We had moved to a new state so face-to-face conversations were no longer possible. I mourned the loss of relationships as I continued to pour my heart out through text and email only to be met with what felt like rejection after rejection.
A year passed.
We moved back.
Reconciliation is still a desire, I’m just not sure how or when to continue approaching each person.
I read ‘I Thought We’d Never Speak Again : the road from estrangement to reconciliation’ by Laura Davis.
The rest of this post will be everything that stood out to me from that book. Continue reading
Posted at 3:06 pm , on June 11, 2018
Do you consider yourself a fantastic or awkward conversationalist?
I am definitely of the latter.
This is my biggest struggle in my head when it comes to talking with people : don’t talk about myself too much, don’t talk about other people because I don’t want to be a gossip, don’t be lame and talk about the weather, don’t be too nosy, so what is there left to talk about?!?
If you find yourself in the same boat, try using one or two of these questions to get the conversation going.
Posted at 2:00 pm , on March 30, 2018
Hello friend (whether you’re mine or someone else’s),
One of the most powerful quotes, packed with what it means to be friend, starts this collection. It’s longer, but a must-read.
As tempting as it is to stop there, continue on reading the rest of these awesome musings about friendship.
1. “The Art of Friendship
The first step in the art of friendship is to be a friend; then making friends takes care of itself. To be a friend a man should start by being a friend to himself, by being true to his highest and best and by aligning himself with the enduring values of human life that make for growth and progress.
To be a friend a man should strive to be like the shadow of a great rock in a weary land, to be a source of refuge and strength to those who walk in darkness. Continue reading