Posted at 11:36 am , on August 13, 2018
These are the words that prompt every single post on WordPress.
“Share your story here…” doesn’t know what it’s asking of me.
“Share your story here…” could be a quick blip about friendship or it could mean me pouring out my deepest thoughts.
When my friend Sara asked, “would you like to share your story?” I couldn’t help but scream inside, “what I just shared with you is not my whole story!” Instead I said, “yes, I would love to share.”
Each of us has a story, and a story within a story, and stories within those stories. The sum of all of these makes up our whole life.
Posted at 6:15 pm , on June 18, 2018
In February of 2017 I decided to share some of my story that really (the use of ‘really’ is a massive understatement) hurt some family.
I apologized immediately – eager to move forward and seek healing together.
Unfortunately not all apologies are immediately accepted.
Or sometimes the apology is accepted but the work that goes into the healing is stunted.
It felt as though we were all traveling through life on a train and this new information caused one car (the one that held these family members) to derail, while the rest of the train continued moving on down the track.
For the following year there wasn’t much communication past the first apologies I made. We had moved to a new state so face-to-face conversations were no longer possible. I mourned the loss of relationships as I continued to pour my heart out through text and email only to be met with what felt like rejection after rejection.
A year passed.
We moved back.
Reconciliation is still a desire, I’m just not sure how or when to continue approaching each person.
I read ‘I Thought We’d Never Speak Again : the road from estrangement to reconciliation’ by Laura Davis.
The rest of this post will be everything that stood out to me from that book. Continue reading
Posted at 3:06 pm , on June 11, 2018
Do you consider yourself a fantastic or awkward conversationalist?
I am definitely of the latter.
This is my biggest struggle in my head when it comes to talking with people : don’t talk about myself too much, don’t talk about other people because I don’t want to be a gossip, don’t be lame and talk about the weather, don’t be too nosy, so what is there left to talk about?!?
If you find yourself in the same boat, try using one or two of these questions to get the conversation going.
Posted at 6:21 pm , on January 9, 2018
The definition of shame (according to Merriam-Webster) is a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.
Have you ever done something shameful?
Have you ever felt ashamed?
Shame makes us do some pretty whacky stuff!
Concealing things you’re ashamed of can cause you to avoid authentic relationship.
What do I mean by that?
Maybe you’re sick of lying about this shameful thing, so you avoid being around others so they can’t ask a question that would prompt you to lie more.
Maybe you don’t want to get too close to anyone because they might inquire about something that prompts a memory of what you did.
Maybe you are nervous someone will make a judgmental comment about the people who have done the same shameful thing as you and you feel defensive.
Friend, it’s time to live in the freedom of truth!
Admit it, bring it to the light, not to bring shame but to bring change! Continue reading
Posted at 9:00 am , on January 1, 2018
It’s what we do.
We’re a bunch of story-tellers.
And our own personal story is in constant progress.
I’m not sure where you’re at in the process of your life story, but I do know this…
You have a story surrounding your birth – your entrance into this world.
You have a story of your childhood – how, where, and by whom you were raised.
You have stories that are lighthearted.
You have stories that are funny – belly laughter funny, and slightly fetch a chuckle funny.
You have stories of deep hurt and sorrow.
The thing about all of these stories is that every single one of them has played a part in shaping who you are today.
Here you are, right now.
Many stories in your review and a vast windshield of possibilities lie ahead. Continue reading