Would you admit that you started out thinking marriage was going to have very few difficult moments and overall your vision was much bliss and fairytale vibes?!
I’ll admit it. I honestly thought marriage would be so much easier than dating.
With four years of dating behind us, I pictured our foundation being unshakeable, and secure enough to carry us through anything, especially any difficult time.
Although a solid foundation of friendship IS great, my vision of marriage didn’t require so much effort. But it’s like Levi Lusko says, “marriage is spelled w-o-r-k.”
At 20, I was immature and selfish when we vowed forever.
Reality smacked me in the face and I had a big pity party. [I’m a recovering narcissist.]
Four years in, there was a wake up call; which is a story for another time.
It pushed me to put in the effort required to flourish our marriage.
I read books and articles, put advice to practice, and made the conscious choice to make my husband a priority.
Seven and a half years in we were rebuilding from scratch; another story for another time.
I vowed to put in even more effort.
Over a year later, there are still days I fail. There are full weeks I fail.
But my encouragement to you is the same encouragement I repeat over and over to myself : progress not perfection.
In all my progress I’ve come across plenty of articles and books with all sorts of advice on ‘how to make your marriage better than ever.’
In this post, I’ve gathered a compilation of some encouragement I’ve found through my research and own desire for a flourishing marriage.
Is it possible to make your marriage better than ever? Absolutely!
It’s all up to you and the efforts you’re willing to put in.
Proceed with understanding that personal pruning is involved.
The pruning process is not to harm you, but to blossom the fruit of your labor. Continue reading